How To Get Over Imposter Syndrome

Do you sometimes feel like a fraud even though you know you have the necessary accomplishments, education, experience and acumen to be doing what you’re doing?

Do you feel underserving of the wins and successes you’ve gained?

Do you sometimes have the nagging feeling that someone will discover that you’re just a sham?

If so, you might be suffering from Imposter Syndrome.

Imposter Syndrome can be defined as a psychological pattern in which a person doubts their accomplishments and suffers a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.

Many people feel this way at some time or other in their lives. There are certainly plenty of successful people at the height of their careers that feel this way now. Just where does this come from and why does it occur?

Feeling like an imposter means that you are remembering a past version yourself that didn’t have the necessary skills to embody who you are today. You are essentially “stuck” in the past. In order to break free from the past you need to become present to the you that you are today. 

There are reasons why so many people suffer from this syndrome and there is a permanent way out of it. I talk about this and more in my video below:

Listening vs Talking

One of my most watched youtube videos is The Art of Silence. In this video I talk about the incessant need of sharing and opining via talking, along with the energy consequences of this activity. I also introduce the concept of silence as a spiritual practice to evolve oneself and grow in maturity and conscious evolution. 

The need to constantly share has become more of an obsession with the advent of social media and the unexamined ‘social’ and ‘cultural’ norms of constantly updating one’s life status, thoughts, opinions, and activity levels.

In this world, everyone is fighting for the lead role on the stage of life. Pay attention to me! Listen to me! Watch this! Look at me doing this! See me, hear me, acknowledge me!!!

This is the ego, the unconscious, the unevolved aspect of ourselves that is desperate for attention in whatever form it can get it from. 

The internet aside, socializing and communing with others is equally fascinating.

People love to talk. They especially love to talk about themselves.

But did you ever notice that no one likes to listen? Those that listen are generally therapists, healers, helpers, and/or teachers. 

Those that find themselves in these roles tend to learn through observation, notice patterns, perceive the subtle, gravitate towards silence, prefer nature, and regularly practice self-contemplation and higher self-awareness.

The listeners of this world usually prefer solitude.

Why?

If you no longer have the need to constantly express and impress, then what do you have left?

What is left is life. Simplicity. Purity. Silence. Bliss. 

Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss

What the ancients have long expressed as: Satchitananda or Truth, Consciousness, and Bliss. 

In the beginning, we stay silent to learn, to observe, to calm the feverish waters of the mind, egoic psyche, and karmic compulsions. 

As we abide in silence, we build greater and greater momentum as more and more self-awareness dawns. We notice things more, we pay attention easier, we come to understand others easily, we stay calm, our intuition grows, and our sensitivity to life expands. 

In the later stages, silence is no longer a disciplined practice but a call back home, our refuge, our center, our source of everything.

Learn to calm the waters of the mind. Practice silence.

Abstain from social media for a time. At first it will be difficult as the mind has an incessant need to share, judge, and compare. How else will you get your fix if you don’t find someone or something else to argue with or about?

Knowing this, give yourself some time to explore silence. At first, let it be a day without any social media updates, mindless flicking of Tik Tock or Youtube shorts, negative news updates, and gossip articles.

Explore this uncomfortable feeling and choose to do something else. Go outside and take a walk. Clean out that closet. Plant a tree, play with your children or pets. Start a new art craft or build something useful.

As you practice silence you gain more time. Time which can be used for self-exploration, personal development, and meditation.

Silence and solitude is not to be feared but to be explored to its depths. 

Do something different and try something new.

Mark Twain Quote on majority

If you are ready to explore silence and the depths of your being and would like a guide and mentor to help you on your path, please click the button below to schedule a discovery call with me. I look forward to working with you!

With you in wholeness,

Elizabeth

Tired of Society?

A recent subscriber wrote to me: 

“Why are societal values overbearing? I don’t want to accept that the purpose of my life is not of my choosing. It has been driven by aspects of economic survival and duty. I think of what it would be like to walk away from it all and travel to the Himalayas and meditate and live a spiritual life. Might an Ashram offer a blissful existence?”

Have you ever felt this way too? 

Are there places we can go to get away from it all? 

What would these places be like?

What could we learn about ourselves?

Is living in a spiritual community the answer?

I answer these questions and more in today’s video…

Discover Your Life Purpose and True Calling

As a coach I work with people that find themselves going through life transitions. Though change is constant, there are times in our lives where we experience more change than others and it’s during these often intense moments that we make life changing pivots and embark on a new adventure. 

These life transitions can occur at any age and can erupt at any time. When they do come, we often feel blindsided and a bit shaken up. We may question what our purpose is and what we are meant to do. We may question what our true calling is; if we even have one to begin with. 

All of these questions are a natural and normal response to change and invites us to take a look at our lives from a larger perspective.

Do we all in fact have a life purpose? Do we each have a “true” calling? If we did, how would we recognize it? Is there more than one calling in a lifetime?

I explore all these concepts and more in today’s video. Please join me in discovering your life purpose and true calling… 

 

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